Throwing Pearls to the Swine?
March 1, 2009
So the first date is over and the comments, both verbal and online, have come in. There are a lot of people who have unequivocally and quite passionately stated that I should not further any conversations with date numero uno. I’ve thought about this…thought about it some more and have concluded that Christ does not brush me off when I do something that offends Him. In no way am I equating myself with Christ, but I am unequivocally and passionately stating that I am commanded, directed, instructed to be Christ-like. Thus, if Christ could love me and ever live to intercede for me despite my repeated offenses against Him and constant misrepresentations of Him, then I can get over myself and express to date number one my genuine concern for his lack of recognition of the value and honor which God has bestowed on His life! I am not trying to save date number one, get with date number one or even convert date number one…BUT…I am trying to do what Christ does for me continually…and that’s love in spite of who we are.
So that’s it…here is the question to you mes amies (my friends):
Am I throwing my pearls to the swine or am I practicing the love of Christ?
Please don’t read this without leaving your response to the answer. I think it’s important that we engage in this discussion, as clearly it has been a hot topic among those I know. In my next blog I will talk about the need to erect boundaries in different relationships.
Until then,
Peace, Love and Hair Grease!
Bernadette A.
A.K.A. The Pink Blogger
There’s no point in calling him back. You already know what he wants… don’t send mix messages.
I think you are throwing pearls to swine. If you had not already spoken to him on the date and expresssed yourself, I would say otherwise, but you told him what you had to say. However you are the one who went on the date and I trust your judgement. Perhaps you see some redemptive quality in him! LOL
You really are considering calling this guy after that?
It’s a jungle out there, and if you happen to meet an animal….run!
And don’t look back either!!!
Remember Lot’s wife????
As recommended earlier, if you get to a know a guy more on the phone before going out, you may be more likely to avoid such surprises in the future and waste less time.
Sorry to have to agree with the others, but I think you are throwing your pearls to the swine. You could have shared the gospel with buddy on the phone and I wouldn’t call him back after – he likely won’t receive your testimony – unless you think he wanted to take you to the hotel room to read the bible in there (lol).
J.K.
I’ve never liked the expression casting your pearls to swine, especially in regards to people. In any case, would you objective be to meet this guy again to influence his thinking or are you actually interested in giving him a chance and to continue dating him? Certainly, love of God means giving second chances to those who wrong us or offend us. However, I wouldn’t want to date a guy who invites me to a hotel room on the first date. I think it speaks about the character of the person and my (limited) experience has shown that men of this mindset aren’t in a place where they’re ready/able to change how the behave to be what I need.
Certain bridges just need to be burned. Believe me, I’ve been there seen that. As a christian woman I too have felt the duty to enlighten some of these blockheads that try to pass themselves off as men. But a couple years into that and I’ve found it much healthier to cut off ties with men who don’t get it and probably will never get it. I commend your spirit, but think for the sake of your sanity, let sleeping dogs lie. The more you invest in him mentally, may leave you susceptible to invest other things and an emotional is so much harder to break.
Ok I think I’ve said enough.
I’l lbe praying for you sister
Dr. – I definitely agree with you I don’t love the phrase being used in reference to people…I used it solely because it required less explanation and it would be a familiar and impactful statement.
QiQi – I concur that it women must be careful about the emotional ties that they form with men…please read my comment in response to my readers from DATE #1
Thank you all for your comments. You have given me much food for thought!
Blessings to you all!
So… Let see,
I think you are doing the noble thing…showing love when you are not being shown love. I know some of my compadres would say …Kick Him to the Curb followed by chants of “Jerry, Jerry, Jerry”.
But I think you are doing the right thing… blow his mind, and knock him off his feet by showing him, what Jesus does for you and him continually.
Ciao